An Evil Under the Sun?

There is an evil which I have seen under the sun, and it is common among men (Ecclesiastes 6:1)

This is not a post about scriptures. I started another blog for that and hopefully, I’ll start posting there soon.

And don’t get excited about me seeing “evil”. Every time the preacher used the phrase “an evil under the sun” he was referring to an anomaly; to something which normally shouldn’t be but is.

Considering that we are in the 21st Century where transgender individuals and LGBT rights are the new normal, you may not see what I have to say as “an evil under the sun”. But please hear me out, will you? Thank you.

Let me say a few things first, so there is no confusion about my point of view.

I am not a male chauvinist. Far from it. I admire women who have stepped beyond the limiting boundaries and expectations that society has placed on them. I know quite a number of these self-confident, independent, hardworking women and I am very proud to be associated with them.

It is in my interactions with them that I have seen “an evil under the sun”. For one reason or the other, these women have had to be strong and stand on their own for so long, it’s all they know how to do.

Heartbreak, loss of a parent or parents, inability to make ends meet at some earlier stage of their life. The list goes on. They have been through so much and come out stronger. This is not the “evil”.

This is the “evil”: That they have forgotten how to let themselves be taken care of; forgotten how to let themselves be cared for; forgotten how to let themselves be loved.

Call me old school or old fashioned but I believe that a man ought to take care of a woman, whether she be his darling or a damsel in distress. I can visualize some of you “brothas” laughing already, but we all know the things we’ve done for our darlings or done to get a damsel out of distress. Things we’ve kept hidden because we are ashamed of being laughed at. Things we normally wouldn’t do because they aren’t “manly”. Sadly, it would seem we (“brothas”) are more often than not, the reason these ladies have become as they are.

And so it saddens me when I meet a young woman who is suspicious of every act of chivalry. She believes she can stand on her own two feet and “run things” by herself and so she doesn’t need a man to do a single thing for her. She may even in some cases become “aggressively independent”.

I do not mean this in the classic boy-meets-girl scenario alone (I can see how you may read that meaning into the preceding paragraph).

Ladies, let’s get one thing straight. There are a few honest to God decent men out there whose number one priority is not to get into your pants.

If you ever meet one of them, know this: Those little acts of kindness and his eagerness to make you happy are sincere acts born out of a primal instinct which drives him to protect and care for the female members of the species.

And I know you always know when you meet these guys.

Women always know. I know that much at least. Lol.

Do I think this post will rile a few of you? Yes.

So I’ll refer you to the title of the blog. Thoughts and Inspirations.

These are my thoughts.